How Self Doubt Robs Us of Our Strength and Our Warrior Status


When I was fresh out of law school, I was lucky enough to be hired as a staff attorney by a really prestigious think tank in Chicago. While it helped that I had interned there for the summer, I can still remember being shocked that out of all the candidates I was selected. This was something new they were doing. They had never hired anyone straight from law school and as it turns out there was a reason.

The firm had big expectations, but no formal training program in place. I was expected to find my way and figure things out, including essentially creating my own portfolio of work.

I still remember the weekly staff meetings and how terrified I was of speaking up. The other staff was at least five years my senior and most of the lawyers had graduated from either the University of Chicago or Harvard. I was convinced my pedigree, and therefore my contribution, wasn’t equal.

Over time, I defaulted to playing it safe and doing the next right thing in front of me. As it turns out, however, that wasn’t what they wanted; they were looking for a leader with initiative, not someone more committed to playing it safe than taking a risk.

After about a year and a half, it was evident to me that things weren’t working out. I realized I needed to find a position that would provide me with more formalized legal training that I legitimately needed as a new law school graduate.

And here’s what I learned and want to share with you from this experience:

While fear and vulnerability are a natural part of the human condition, they prey on disconnection. When we are not connected to the truth of who we are, our essence, we run the risk of permanent disconnection because the path of least resistance is often the easiest one.

When I’m thinking small and disconnected from my essence—from my soul’s purpose and from my power, that’s when I am most in danger of becoming stuck and not speaking up and out.

They wanted the feisty and opinionated summer intern who disappeared when self-doubt crept in and it felt risky to speak up.

We become so risk adverse and afraid to make a mistake that we don’t really step into the fullness of our leadership.

What if it didn’t have to be that way?

What if you could be supported in advocating inside your organization for the resources and support you need so you could amplify your influence on the outside, in your community and with other leaders to advance your career?

Interested in learning a different approach to leadership?

Then click here and join me on March 22 for a LIVE free virtual 45-minute Workshop on Zoom where together we’ll tackle:

• How to identify and move past common barriers that keep us stuck from using our voice for influence.

• The mindset needed to be an effective advocate both inside and outside your organization.

• How to Identify opportunities to amplify your influence and your leadership inside and outside your organization

I’m super excited to have the chance to meet with you live and help you break through some of the barriers standing between you and the Leader you were meant to be.

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